“Being a parent is of the hardest things you will ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love” – Nicholas Spark
Very well – said indeed! Though I learnt this hard way!! Particularly when I was going to be a mom some 20 odds years ago!!!
Being a successful Class I Government Official for seven long years, it was not that I had never thought about marriage but somehow it looked a distant dream for me owing to various reasons. Totally immersed in my professional life, somehow personal life took a back seat. I was not unhappy though but somehow familial pressures of typical & well-known Kayastha family, (Based in Lucknow) some 25 years ago was too much to surmount. Honestly speaking like many other girls, I never thought of motherhood as a big deal before marriage as I thought children are a big hassle. Moreover in India many are doing the honours all the time, so why me?
But in a sudden twist of fate, marriage beckoned! I couldn’t have been happier though I had to sacrifice my well rewarding job to absorb into matrimony, which made me shift from Lucknow to Mumbai. Time moved on…adjusting, struggling, planning, streamlining & absorbing into new City & new Gujarati family.
Caught unawares, one not so fine morning I fell sick and later during the day I came to know that stork had visited me unannounced. My happiness knew no bounds, I was riding another ladder, the ultimate ladder which will make me remain on that pedestal lifelong!
Self admittedly, not being the most ‘maternal’ woman, I suddenly started enjoying it all, the morning sickness, the doctor’s visit, 24/7 attention & care, uninvited advices from all quarters, UP way of deliveries, Gujarati way of deliveries, changes in my body, emotional upheavals, amidst all this, could not wait to hold the bundle of joy in my arms. But as life never rewinds, nor does it fast forward…it took full nine months to arrive.
I must admit that I would have been the most anxious mother of my times, owing to my nature, my age (of conception), my body type, my metabolic system, my emotional rig-marole and to top it all my financial constraints. Laden with all this and much more, I went through the trial and turmoil of mother hood. I had to change my eating habits, sleeping habits and inculcate exercise, walking regime and most importantly remaining positive all through ( Most difficult task). My biggest anxiety was my ever on the rise weight, which worried me forever, how it will come down. Mummy assured me all the time. She asked me to concentrate on the baby and forget the weight or any other issue…it will take its own course to settle. How right she was and how wrong I was in handling it all through!!
Somehow, in the midst of pregnancy, I started change in my feelings towards the baby. I started glowing in the pride that I would be a mother soon…I am going to create someone who would be part of me…who would take my name & legacy forward…who would inherit my talents…when people would address her as ‘my child’. The feeling of unconditional love for someone became my real strength. It was like taking the extraordinary chance of experiencing the selfless love which my mother had for me…that made my motherhood special for me. Indeed very very special for me! During this period, reading Dr. Benjamin Spock’s books on pregnancy helped me a lot in handling my physicality and Bhagwad Gita in maintaining my sanity.
Coming back to the physical anxiety packaged as part of pregnancy like stretch marks & pigmentation, I started looking for creams, lotions, ointments which would help me in the matter, I tried some imported cream which helped me a great deal. Unfortunately in those days product like Marico’s Bio Oil was not there, which would have helped me in a big way. I just received the Bio Oil which I would start using soon and I am sure it would help me maintain glowing skin and marks free complexion. #BioOil is a specialist skincare oil that helps improve the appearance of scars, stretch marks and uneven skin tone. It is also effective for aging and dehydrated skin. Bio‑Oil has won 284 skincare awards and has become the No.1 selling scar and stretch mark product in 20 countries since its global launch in 2002.
I spoke to leading Dermatologist Dr. Rashmi Shetty who shared, “A major worry that every pregnant woman has is, whether the stretch marks are ever going to go. The answer for which is try to minimize stretch marks during pregnancy by regularly applying moisturizers and oils such as Bio Oil, which contain Vitamin E, Lavender, Calendula and Rosemary,” She emphasized on the need for mothers to take as much time as they require, post giving birth, to get back to exercising.
So you all would be mothers, enjoy your pregnancy, enjoy your motherhood, nothing is greater than welcoming your bundle of joy in this world who would call you mummy, make you #YummyMummy !!
Last but not the least in the words of Oprah Winfrey : “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” & My Blogpost just proves that!!!
Thanks Bio Oil & Blog Adda for making me relive those wonderful moments! Couldn’t have asked for a better Mother’s Day celebration!!